Tuesday, September 14, 2004

Have you ever talked to someone you haven't talked to in a long while and got to thinking that maybe there was a reason you had not talked to them? I had that feeling today when someone called who I hadn't talked to in months. They invited me out in a few days but I don't think I'm going to go. I should be unavailable anyway but I don't think I want to hang out with them.

This isn't directed at anyone that reads this blog (at least that I'm aware of) so none of you have to worry. It's not about any of you. I just realized that sometimes you have to shrink your list of friends rather than expand upon them. It's a necessary adjustment to surround yourself with those who truly care about you rather than those who are sparatically like, "oh, I need to use him for something, I'll pretend to want to hang out with him for a bit." Yeah, real swift.

I've had 2 friends like that recently that I am slowly abandoning. I won't list names at all but I'm pleased that I'm ending those friendships. At one time they meant something but now I look back and realize it wasn't really what I thought. They weren't friends that I thought they were. I enjoyed their company at the time but that has passed and I am left with no interest. It's a sad thing to happen but it was bound to happen eventually.

My parents went through the same thing ... actually at about my age. The difference is they left all of their friends. When I say all, I mean all. Every friend they knew from school and such they simply stopped communicating with. Maybe a Christmas card here and there but nothing more. I now understand the reasoning. There are some people you just lose interest in associating with. In my parents' cases, their friends were in bad dealings here and there and it was for the best. Mine isn't that extreme and I don't want to become anti-social in regard to them but I just don't think they should be close friends like they once were. Instead, someone I may say hi to but not a lot else. It's better that way and I'm thinking I have made the right choice in this matter.

On that note, I think I will go to sleep so I can dream about waking for class tomorrow. ¡Ciao!

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Chuck, we all have had friends that only call us when they want something. Usually, eventually, we make the same decision that you do ... to make ourselves less available .. it's not about being "anti-social," it's about surrounding ourselves with more positive, fun people!!!

GOOD for you for realizing this!!!

(Looking around skeptically .... hmmmm, I'm not one of those people on the iggy list am I?? lol)